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- 37 books that help
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The three books we'd hand you first.
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie
The classic guide to getting along with people, still useful nearly a century later.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Stephen R. Covey
Seven principles for leading yourself first, then working well with others. One of the most influential…
The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz
Four simple promises to yourself that can free you from a lot of unhappiness.
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Daring Greatly
Vulnerability isn't weakness. It's where connection and courage begin.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
The classic parenting guide to communicating with children in ways that build cooperation and respect.
Nonviolent Communication
Say what you need without blame, and hear others without defensiveness.
The Art of Loving
A psychoanalyst argues that love is an art that requires knowledge, effort and practice, not something we simply fall…
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Research-based principles from decades of studying couples, from building friendship to managing conflict.
A New Earth
See how the ego drives conflict and dissatisfaction, and find a calmer way to live and work.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
A psychologist helps readers understand emotionally immature parents and heal from loneliness and self-doubt.
All About Love
A thoughtful exploration of what love really is, and why it requires care, respect, honesty and responsibility.
Codependent No More
The classic book that helped millions recognize codependency and start caring for themselves.
Come As You Are
A sex educator explains the science of women's sexuality and why everyone is normal in their own way.
Difficult Conversations
Every difficult conversation is really three: what happened, feelings and identity. How to handle all three.
Emotional Intelligence
Understanding emotions, yours and others', is a skill that shapes your life. The book that popularized emotional…
Hold Me Tight
Seven conversations that help couples break negative cycles and build secure emotional connection.
Leadership and Self-Deception
Most conflicts are fuelled by self-deception: seeing others as objects. A business parable about 'getting out of the…
Set Boundaries, Find Peace
A therapist's practical guide to recognizing when you need boundaries and setting them kindly.
Supercommunicators
Every conversation is one of three kinds: practical, emotional or social. Connect by matching the right one.
The 5 Love Languages
Learn how your partner feels loved, and speak their language.
The Prophet
Poetic essays on love, marriage, children, work, joy, sorrow and death, spoken by a departing prophet.
The Road Less Traveled
Life is difficult, and accepting that is the start of growth. A classic on discipline, love and spiritual development.
The Whole-Brain Child
Twelve strategies based on brain development to help parents turn everyday struggles into growth for their children.
Tuesdays with Morrie
A journalist's weekly visits with his dying former professor become lessons on love, work and what matters.
Wired for Love
A couples therapist explains how attachment and the nervous system shape relationships, and how to build a 'couple…
Atlas of the Heart
Eighty-seven emotions and experiences, mapped and explained, so you can name what you feel.
Boundaries
A Christian classic on taking responsibility for your life and setting healthy limits with others.
Braving the Wilderness
True belonging means being yourself, even when it means standing alone, while staying connected to others.
Eight Dates
Eight structured dates, each built around an important conversation, to deepen connection with your partner.
Getting the Love You Want
Why we're drawn to partners who echo childhood wounds, and how conscious dialogue can turn conflict into healing.
Just Listen
A psychiatrist shares techniques for getting through to people who are upset, resistant or difficult.
Mating in Captivity
Why desire fades in long relationships, and how to keep it alive. A thoughtful, cross-cultural exploration.
The Dance of Anger
Anger is a signal. A psychologist shows how to use it to change unhealthy patterns in close relationships.
The Laws of Human Nature
Eighteen 'laws' of human behaviour, illustrated with history, to help you understand yourself and others.
The Let Them Theory
Stop trying to control other people. Let them, then decide what you'll do.
You're Not Listening
A journalist explores why we've stopped listening, and how better listening deepens relationships.
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